Hell is other people

...'hell is other people' has always been misunderstood. It has been though that what I mean by this is that our relationships with other people are poisoned. That they are invariably hellish relations. But, what I really mean is something totally different. I mean that if relations with someone else are twisted, vitiated, then that other person can only be hell. Why? Because.... when we think about ourselves, when we try to know ourselves, we use the knowledge of us which other people already have. We judge ourselves with the means other people have and have given us for judging ourselves. Into whatever I say about myself someone Else's judgement (especially here lately with so called friends.) always enters. Into whatever I feel within myself someone else's judgment enters. But, that does no at all mean that one cannot have relations with other people. It simply brings out the capital importance of all other people to each one of us.

Chose wisely.